How do u define a loser in life? One who hasn't earned enough money, or fame, or relationships! Or is it subject to the individual's interpretation? I feel a loser in life is someone who hasn't achieved what he wanted to achieve in life. But then life is not a bed of roses. I'm sure there is noone on earth who has achieved all that he wanted. But there are people who have achieved little of what they wanted. These people may be termed as absolute losers. Losers occur not because of the faults they make but because of the possibly foolish decisions made by their controllers - namely parents.
We all know that parents are the people who can care for their children more than anyone else on earth. They take crucial decisions on their children's life based on what they think is best for their children's future. But then are all these decisions correct. Not all children are alike. Your neighbour's daughter who has excelled in social science by attending extra classes at a coaching centre is very different from your own son who doesn't get as much marks. You put him in the same centre but with little positive results. This would suggest that he is not the same person as that girl, who cannot play a single stroke in tennis while your own son can thrash out the former school champion by his booming serves.
Moving on to succesors, some parents say, "My son has joined Infosys. He is earning Rs. 2 lacs per annum. He has succeeded in life." Maybe he has but maybe not another person who has joined the same company, gets the same salary as the former and pleased his parents like the other guy. This guy might have had different ideas, wanted different things and thought differently yet landed in the same ship as the others namely Infosys, just discussing for an example. Has he really succeeded. One might be tempted to say "yes" but think over it logically.
This guy had been planning to take up some other career let us say music. He had wanted to become a sound programmer because of the inherent talent in music and sound related theories. God has bestowed each one on earth with some talent. But this guy has had one special talent - which was to excel in all that he did. He was extremely good in acads, had a creative mind, attended quiz competitions, excelled in them, attended drawing, paitnting competitions, won prizes in them, attended computer programming contests, won prizes in them. He had done all these in school days which made his parents believe that he would excel in whatever he did. True - maybe. But will he excel in life - Ah! that's where he lost out. He had loathed doing what everyone had been dying to do. Things had come too easily for him till then. He had earned a decent name for himself in the music arena, had earned good reputation for being an intellegent person, capable of scoring high marks in the university exams. Yet noone was willing to ask him what he liked the most. His parents however had asked him and his answer was very clear, "Music". Also he had made known to them his desire to take up the less known career.
The parents of this guy are the best people on earth to take the decision of "what next" about this person. That was how he had joined the computer engineering course in a reputed university and did reasonably well there too because of his inherent talent. However this guy was not mature enough when he joined the university and had gone there because his parents had convinced him that IT was the future. This obedient guy also thought the same knowing well that his parents would want only good to happen to him. That time, fresh out of school, he had no idea what his strengths were and believed sincerely that acads was his greatest asset. So he joined the university which was probably not the one for a weak minded fellow as this guy.
He started hating the course, but was forced to study because he had taken it. However God does show you positives even in the toughest of times. His music started to take shape and the raw talent in him came out to a reasonable extent. And now he knew that he liked it. Yet it would remain only his hobby because of th mentally demanding course that perhaps was not what he wanted. However his natural ability got him good marks and saw him get placed with the reputed organisation - Infosys.
But he knew he didn't want that. His parents were very happy. They had made infinte number of enquiries about every company in the country. It was atlast the common man's belief that Infosys was the best that had won. The parents told him to attend the interview and once again his natural ability got him through. He had worked no hard till then. Marks had come all by itself. The placement was a breeze. But was that what he was looking for?
There are crores of people in India who long to get placed with Infosys. A vast majority of this population comprises of people who have limited knowledge and they knew it. All that they wanted was to get placed with a big organisation that would pay them well. However our guy didn't need all this. He was wanting to take up sound engineering as his career. He had liked it more than anything else on earth. How will it be when your favorite hobby becomes your prime job and you are paid for it. But that was not to happen with this poor guy. He tried convincing his parents citing instances when sound engineering course doers succeeded and also mentioned the names of many succesful sound engineers, but in vain. His parents believed the words of their friends and neighbours who knew much less about him and they themselves had suggested Infosys only based on their own belief of a succesful professional. Who cared for the thirst in the heart of a young man wanting to make a mark in a distinct field. The worst part that really makes life miserable for this man at heart is that this guy had it in him to become the best in the world in the course he liked.
He tried for the next best option, writing CAT, taking up MBA at some IIM, working at some BIG company for 4-5 years, minting money and returning back to his dream profession - sound engineering. That seemed to be the best option left with him.
But his bad luck saw him not writing CAT to his fullest potential, infact not even to half his potential. This ONLY real failure in his life has cost him the most beautiful thing he wanted in life - achieving his dream career. So new he might seem to be well placed in life to the outsiders, but he knows what he is in life - A LOSER......
